I don’t get into my personal life too much on here, but being a single man is a component of my spiritual journey with God. Today I found myself reflecting on meeting the qualifications of marriage.
What I mean by reflecting the qualifications of marriage is am I growing to the standards of a husband? Also something else I think about, is any woman I’m communicating with striving to reflect the qualities of a wife? All things worth considering if we do so happen to get married to someone one day. And really, this is good for those of you who are already married to ponder again.
Husband and Wife Qualities
I broke down the character qualities that appear to be conveyed in the passages in Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, and Proverbs 31.
Husband: Loving like Christ through selflessness, nourishing and cherishing the wife, being understanding of the wife, honoring the wife.
Wife: Subject to husbands like the Church was to Christ (which means being respectful and purely conducting of yourself towards the husband as 1 Peter 3:1-2 seems to explain), being gentle and quiet in Spirit, (which according to the Greek of these two words, this seems to mean being humble and peaceable), trustworthy, doing good to the husband, helpful to the household, strong, dignified, positive, wise, kind, praiseworthy, God fearing.
Thinking about my past interests and communications with women, I don’t think I took these things into consideration as much as I should have. Frankly, I was more focused on whether I was physically attracted (which that’s fine from the examples we have in scripture) and if the woman was intriguing to me. But I will be taking these qualities into consideration more fervently from now on. I’ll also be making sure that I’m growing in my selflessness, my exercising of nourishing and cherishing someone, being understanding of someone, and honoring someone.
How much have you reflected on these things?
Peace to all who are in Christ.